You are a busy person. Whether you are a stay at home parent or work a full time office job, you are a busy person. We have so many commitments each week, bills to pay, mouths to feed. I don't know about you but typically I'm the last person I tend to each day and if there's one thing I've learned over the years of raising two boys at home it's the importance of personal time.
I'm not good at taking personal time. I'm not even good at imagining it honestly. I have a very supportive husband who is pretty good about planning personal time for himself. He doesn't get it that often, a mountain bike ride on the weekends and one weekend trip a year of mountain biking with his friends. He's always telling me to go away for a weekend. Go away and do something just for me. Recharge.
I've done this exactly once in the past 8 years.
Why don't I get away when I've got super amazing husband/dad who will cheer me on to do so? Oh I have tons of reasons, ahem, excuses. There's no money. Where would I even go? I'd get lonely away from them all weekend. Blah, Blah, Blah.
Honestly I'm not really sure why I don't get away. Maybe it's that I'm a cancer and really just want to be at home. Maybe it's that I don't want to use up family resources on a personal trip. But what my husband would say is, "Being good to yourself, is beneficial for the family." And he's right. When I feel refreshed, like after a run or a few hours out away from the ever present duties of home, I am happier and have a brighter outlook and am then by extension a better mom and wife.
Because of all of this, I've committed to myself, to take at least two retreats this year. They don't have to be big or expensive or crazy like flying to Europe or anything, but they do need to be me focused. And I have to admit, I'm having a hard time accepting that.
How about you? Do you plan personal time? Do you keep putting it off? Do you have your reasons, read excuses too? If you could go anywhere or do anything for one recharging weekend what would you do? What is stopping you? Can you see how personal time will benefit you?
Drop a comment here. I'd love to hear what you have to say. Maybe it will give me some insight into what my real hesitations are. Maybe we can all help each other take the personal time we need and deserve.